Roger Goodell

30 07 2009


Former Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice reportedly said that being NFL Commissioner would be her dream job.  Roger Goodell (the man pictured above) is the current commissioner.  This job has required him to deal with players fighting dogs, killing people while driving drunk, and getting into fights after “makin’ it downpour” in a strip club – and much, much more.  I’m not sure WHY Condi would want that job?!  It sounds like a major headache to me.

What’s your dream job?  I define “dream job” as the tasks you would still do if you hit the lottery and no longer needed the money.  Are you currently working with your passion?  My passion is giving.  I don’t mean making purchases.  I mean giving of yourself to the people you love.  I mean celebrating relationships and special milestones with those that make your life worth living. 

Giving is a lifestyle and not just an occasion.  It can be infused in everything you do (from compliments, to kind gestures, and of course actual gifts).  Living as a giver is just like being a quarterback.  You get the ball every time, you call the plays, and you have a chance to deliver for the team.  In this case, the team is anyone and everyone.  Giving spreads, so the more you do it – the more others will too.  I can’t think of a better job than helping people win on the giving field and I appreciate you allowing me to do it – just by reading this.  Now if you paid me that would be nice too!  Oh well, you’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.

Now go give somebody something!


Trent Edwards

23 07 2009

The T.O. Show

What do contracts, lost luggage, and hot Asian real estate agents have in common?  If you guessed the first episode of “The T.O. Show” then you are correct!  Yes, I watched it.  I would like to say it was purely for research and that I would never seriously entertain such garbage, but then I would have to pretend like I didn’t watch the entire season of Vh1’s “For the Love of Ray J”. 

It is hard to act like this is T.O.’s first TV show.  He makes a show out of each and every NFL season.  Some may disagree, but my favorite T.O. episode is the one when he was crying over the media’s treatment of Tony Romo.  However, the episode when he spit in the face of Atlanta Falcons cornerback DeAngelo Hall (during a game) is definitely a close second.  Terrell said it best in his famous quote, “I love me some me”.  In his mind, the whole world is a show about T.O. and Buffalo is about to join the list of team’s that have learned that lesson.

It would be great if the rest of us could be our own biggest fans, just like Terrell Owens.  (Ok, not exactly like him!)  Right or wrong, people often depend on other people to help inflate their perceptions of themselves.  That’s why one of the greatest (and cheapest) gifts you can give is a compliment.  What you may not know, is that the way you give a compliment will have more or less effect based on the gender of the recipient.  See below for quick tips to help your compliments become more meaningful.


TIPS for Complimenting Men

1. Ask for their advice: Men see this as a sign that you respect them and respect is probably their most important factor in a caring relationship (maybe even more than love).  Women see advice as a way to think things out and don’t realize that asking for advice is a compliment and that not taking the advice could be seen as an insult.  Consider limiting the practice of asking males for advice when you really only want validation, but already know for sure what you will do. 

2. Be specific: Most men (and please forgive the stereotype) don’t need as many general compliments as women.  They prefer their compliments to be more targeted and unique.  This is probably because they tend to prefer logic to emotion.  It is easier for them to see the logic in “I love the way you smoked the steaks; it had just the perfect mix of grill taste and meat taste” than “Great steak, honey”.


TIPS for Complimenting Women

1. Notice new things: Women like to think you are paying attention, so try your hardest to notice and then compliment their changing style.  This is especially important with new hairstyles or lost weight.  You will score bonus points for noticing smaller changes like new clothes, shoes, or makeup.  If you think you see a change, compliment her on it immediately.

2. Volume: Feel free to “say it loud and say it proud”.  Not to the point where it feels fake, but women don’t really get tired of compliments.  If she does get tired of your compliments, it is a major red flag that she no longer cares what you think about her (which is code for, she no longer cares about you).


What the genders definitely agree on is the need for feeling both desired and appreciated.  You can’t go wrong with a sexy compliment nor a few words of gratitude. 

Speaking of compliments, please feel free to pay me a big one and help me spread the word.  I would greatly appreciate it if you would send the blog on to your social networks (Facebook, Twitter, etc) or simply send a link to anyone you think would use or enjoy it.  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.

IMPORTANT: There is something wrong with this post.  Did you notice it?  I will check in the comments for your answers.

Peyton Manning

19 07 2009

Forget the stupid diet and just buy some bigger shirts!  Accepting a spreading waistline can be tough, but I hope those words from a Super Bowl champion have put your mind at ease.  Commercials and endorsements have become a part of the legacy of Peyton Manning.  Definitely not more than his on the field accomplishments because he is just amazing!  He is a three-time season MVP, a Super Bowl MVP, has been selected for nine Pro Bowls, and I could go on and on.  So don’t get me wrong, I am in no way judging Peyton for capitalizing on his success.  I’m just saying, the guy has done A LOT of commercials.  I actually like commercials, they help set my expectations from the companies that market to me.  Are they trying to be a part of a trend, a classic brand, make me think I’m cool, make me laugh?  

Setting expectations will always serve you well and this also applies to gifting.  I don’t care how great the robe you bought is, it is not going to be well received if the person was expecting a diamond ring.  In contrast, if you think you have an exceptional gift, you might want to create a little pre-gift excitement to get the most mileage out of your time, money, and effort.  Below are three gifting scenarios and ways you can give them an appropriate commercial.  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.  Try these commercials at least a week before you give the gift (that will give them time to sink in). 



Scenario #1: Practical Gifts

Examples: Slippers, a new blender, some gloves, gift cards, etc.

Commercial: “I’m looking forward to celebrating your birthday and giving you a little gift I picked up.  It’s something I think you will use and I hope you will think of me when you do.” 

Message Delivered: This gift will be practical and probaly not romantic.  Still, this person wants to help you out and they want to have a place in your life.


Scenario #2: Most Other Gifts

Examples: Books, spa gifts, lingerie, a watch, etc.  These gifts are definitely nice and have some sentimental value, but it isn’t over the top.

Commercial: “I really hope you like your gift.  I never know which way to go, but I think you will like it.”

Message Delivered: This could go either way so don’t get your hopes up too high.  Still, they tried and they care if you like it.  (This commercial sets the expectations lower than the gift probably warrants and you can only go up from there.)


Scenario #3: Premium Gifts

Examples: Hard to give an example, but it’s when you’re pretty sure you knocked it out of the park.  This is not your everyday kind of gift.  It has a lot of sentimental value, is very thoughtful, is really personalized, and/or just very expensive. 

Super Bowl Commercial: I once had someone give me a super thoughtful gift.  Obviously they knew they had selected a real winner and decided to create extra gift excitement by providing clues that allowed me to try to guess the gift before it was given.  This was brilliant in two ways; it started the anticipation clock early which of course made receiving the actual gift more exciting.  It also was a “mini-gift” being able to find excitement and joy in analyzing the clues.  Tailor the number and difficulty of the clues to the level of suspense you think the recipient would enjoy.  (I like a lot of build-up so there were 12 clues and they were all really hard.)  I still think of this gift every time I see Heather Graham.  Her name was a clue that was supposedly going to lead me to the gift being monogrammed.  As you can see, the recipient is unlikely to actually guess the gift (unless you make the clues way too easy), but boy is it fun thinking about it. 

Message Delivered: They obviously think they have a great gift so you can feel free to start getting excited right now!  Yeah!

Big Ben Roethlisberger

15 07 2009


If Barack Obama was an NFL quarterback, which quarterback do you think he would be?  My guess is Ben Roethlisberger.  When Ben was playing high school football, “the man” tried to hold him down.  The coach preferred to start his son in the position of quarterback so Ben was stuck as a wide receiver until his senior year.  Hmmm….Ben had to endure favoritism given to someone a person in power just felt more comfortable with.  I’m sure Obama can relate to that.  Ben is also known for playing outside the pocket and shaking things up a little.  This sounds like a “change platform” to me.  And then the obvious, Ben won big in only his second professional season.  He followed that up by winning the Super Bowl again just a few short years later.  Ben’s football accomplishments (and the speed at which he has achieved them) baffle my mind in exactly the same way that Obama’s political success does.

Sometimes getting something faster can make it seem even better.  I know that is the case with my lunch order.  The faster it arrives, the better I think it tastes.  Keep this in mind when unexpected gifting opportunities arise.  These unexpected gifts are often more meaningful to the recipient than the standard occasions like a birthday (those can start to appear more like an obligation).  Flowers or a gift to celebrate a big promotion will seem even more extraordinary if you can get it over to the recipient as soon as possible (within 24 hours).  Whenever you think you want to send a card or gift for something, get online and do it before the thought slips your mind.  Timing is everything so don’t miss a window to gain some extra points.  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.

Matt Cassel

27 06 2009

I hope that made you laugh (and didn’t offend too many).  It has been a rough week and I think we all need a laughter break from life’s stresses and the nonstop memorials!  Thanks SNL and Justin Timberlake.  So what in the world does the clip above have to do with Matt Cassel?  Let’s face it, Matt Cassel is pretty boring (and that clip isn’t).  A year ago he was a virtual “nobody”.  He stood in for Tom Brady last season during the Patriots time of need and actually did a pretty good job.  The Patriots would have held on to him (especially since Brady’s recovery has yet to be tested), but Cassel was putting too much pressure on their salary cap and had to go.  He was traded to the Kansas City Chiefs during the offseason. 

We all face salary caps of our own and we call them our budgets.  The clip above highlights one option for a pretty inexpensive gift (though I don’t recommend it unless the recipient is ALREADY your woman AND has a GREAT sense of humor).  The key to giving with little to no expense is dramatically increasing the gift’s thought and creativity.  As mentioned in the Vick post, “cheap and thoughtless” is a dangerous combination.  If you already have a talent this will be easy.  You can paint a picture, compose a song, take some photographs, or write a story.  Less skilled ideas include issuing favor coupons or donating your time to a charity in their name.  Another winner is writing a sincere letter about their value in your life.  At the end of the day, the success of these ideas will often hinge on presentation.  You will need to take the time to provide the look and feel you would give to a more expensive gift.  This means boxing and wrapping these gifts (including the letter).  Inside the box, there should be actual certificates for your favor coupons or to commemorate the time you donated.  These ideas are a lot more work than their pricey counterparts, but they are likely to be the gifts your loved ones remember the most.  This is especially true when gifting your mother.  I don’t recommend trying this every year for every occasion, but it is actually a nice refreshing gesture (even when you have the money to buy something else).  If your woman doesn’t agree, get a new woman.  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.

Michael Vick

24 06 2009

Vick Cartoon

Michael Vick probably isn’t worth the energy of this post, but here goes.  You can’t miss the stories of the promising young quarterback turned convicted felon and media villain.  There is nothing uncommon about football (or sports) players getting in trouble, but usually the public and certainly the NFL are more forgiving.  I can easily think of several players accused of crimes against men, women, themselves, and the very integrity of their sport.  What makes Vick so different?  There are some countries where you can cook your dog for dinner tonight.  However, we don’t “PLAY THAT” when it comes to dogs in America!  We adopt them, we love them, we protect them.  The American pet industry is one of the few to experience growth this year with revenues exceeding $50B.  Fifty Billion DOLLARS!  Whether Vick knew it or not, his crimes were unforgivable to many people.  I suspect he will play in the NFL again (not next season, but maybe the following), but he will never be forgiven by the American public.

It isn’t hard to figure out where I might be going with this.  There are some gift unforgivables and it might help you if I just spell them out now (before you do them).  They aren’t really “unforgivable” as gifts are just things after all, but they will kill the spirit of the gesture.  I understand that some of these tips are very basic and you might have never thought to do them in the first place.  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.  Take a quick look and take caution, if you need it.

Five Almost Unforgivable Gift Giving Crimes

1.  The Gift is Late: Don’t show up at your anniversary dinner or her birthday celebration claiming that you will get a gift later.  This looks like you didn’t give her or the celebration enough forethought.  This doesn’t apply to gifts that will take place later (like a trip) or gifts that just didn’t show up (blame UPS).  If there is a good reason for the late arrival, explain it and seem genuine about wishing something was there.

2. Poor Presentation: I hope this doesn’t need to be said, but don’t give a gift when you have made absolutely no attempt at wrapping it (not even a bow).  It should also not have the price tag on it or be in the store’s plastic bag.  I don’t think I really need to explain why so catch up with me offline if you need more info.

3. The Gift Isn’t Really For Them: If your woman doesn’t like football, NFL tickets are not a winner.  Gifts that can in any way be seen as more for you than the recipient should be avoided.

4. Hidden Insults: I know it might seem like you are helping someone out, but gifts that highlight any insecurity should be avoided.  No treadmills if she is concerned about her weight (feel free if she just loves to run) or cookbooks if her food is bad.  Gifts should always highlight what a person likes and/or is good at.

5. Cheap AND Thoughtless: My next post will be on giving great gifts with no or little to no expense.  This can be done, but not without making it really thoughtful.  If you don’t have time to think about it, the gift will probably have to be pretty good (by this I mean expensive).  How much thought does it really take to guess a woman might be pleased with diamonds?  None.  Just remember, cheap and thoughtless will always be a nasty combination.

Eli Manning

22 06 2009

Eli's Sneakers

You might find the picture above familiar, even though I’m guessing you have forgotten exactly why.  Tommy Morrissey is the man you see holding the shoes next to a picture of Eli Manning.  Two years ago, Eli hired a moving company that was owned by Morrissey’s son.  Eli’s then-fiancé (now wife) Abby was throwing out a pair of Eli’s old shoes when Morrissey’s son asked if he could have them.  He gave the shoes to his father, who considered them his good luck charm and wore them on every gameday thereafter (including the Giants Super Bowl win in 2008).  After the Giants won the title, the “good luck shoes” gained some attention and an article was written about his ritual.  This article was seen by a family friend who showed it to the estranged sister of Tommy Morrissey.  Tommy and his sister Donna were separated as children after their mother passed away.  Donna was raised by a different branch of the family and they lost track of each other.  Tommy looked for her, but was unsuccessful.  The “lucky shoes” were lucky after all, because they prompted his sister Donna to seek him out and they reunited after 45 years.

I’m not surprised that giving a pair of shoes turned out to be lucky.  I’m also not surprised that a pair of shoes managed to attract a woman that had been MIA for 45 years.  Most women like shoes.  Correction, most women love shoes.  Very few men ever think to pick out and buy their woman shoes.  Some men who like to live dangerously, do buy their women clothes as gifts.  (I can’t overestimate how risky this can be, but I will save that for another post).  Are shoes a good gift for your woman?  Ask yourself:

  1. Is her closet filled with shoes and busting at the seams? 
  2. Does she compliment other women’s shoes? 
  3. Does she often wear high heels? 

If the answers are yes to these questions, you probably have a winning gift here.  Incidentally, if she doesn’t like heels she probably does NOT have a shoe obsession.  Real shoe lovers throw comfort out the window for style and though they might enjoy flats, they borderline lust after sexy heels. 

Like I said, the buying is simple and safe (works for any occasion).  Find a pair (or two) of her heels and confirm her size.  Don’t ask her shoe size because some women lie to make their feet seem smaller.  Go to any shoe store and pick out a pair of heels you find sexy.  It is very hard to go wrong here.  A true shoe lover finds value in sexy shoes even if they don’t match with anything and they can barely walk in them.  Not to mention how jealous all her friends will be that she has a shoe buying man!  If you have a shoe lover and you buy her shoes, you will be getting just as lucky as Tommy Morrissey.  Let me know how it goes (assuming the story has a PG version).  You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.