“Don’t start none, won’t be none.” This old expression basically means that if you don’t start the problem, there won’t be a problem. The danger of writing a public blog is that people close to you might think you are talking about them, when you are really just offering general advice to the public. In this case, I do have someone specific in mind (let’s call him Johnny) and I hope he’s reading. So what do my friend Johnny and Vince Young have in common? They’re both stuck in the aftermath of a great performance they probably can’t recreate and definitely can’t sustain. Don’t let this happen to you!
For Vince, this performance was his amazing 2006 Rose Bowl Championship win (maybe my favorite football game EVER) followed by the start of his inconsistent and mediocre NFL career. In the beginning of a romantic relationship, a guy (Johnny) might be compelled to call his new lady several times a day, pick up flowers at the drop of a hat, regularly schedule fancy dinners, and buy random gifts for no reason at all. Don’t get me wrong, I think this stuff is wonderful. If you happen to like doing these things as a natural part of your super romantic personality, that’s great. Your lady has found a needle in a haystack. However, if you think your woman understands that this is just part of your “courting period”, you are sadly mistaken. Woman will see this as your standard behavior when you “love” them. When you stop doing these things with the same regularity (and you probably will), they will assume there has been a decline in that love.
Let me be clear, I’m NOT saying that you shouldn’t do these romantic things in the beginning of a relationship. I just think you should do them in a manner that is fairly consistent with how your behavior will be over the long haul. If you are like Johnny and you are just too lovesick to heed good advice, don’t say I didn’t warn you. You’re the quarterback; I’m just here to protect you.
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